In his latest book, The Tech-Wise Family, Andy Crouch answers this question with two words.
Family helps form us into persons who have acquired wisdom and courage. (53)
Wisdom and Courage
As so many have observed, the “information age” has not made us wiser people. Access to facts is not the same thing as wisdom.
Knowledge, these days, is very easy to come by—almost too easy, given the flood of search results for almost any word or phrase you can imagine. But you can’t search for wisdom—at least, not online. And it’s as rare and precious as ever—maybe, given how complex our lives have become, rarer and more precious than before. (56)
Crouch argues that wisdom is essential, but by itself it doesn’t have an impact. Wisdom makes a difference when it brings about action.
If all we needed were wisdom, that would be challenge enough. But it’s not all we need. Because we need not just to understand our place in the world and the faithful way to proceed—we also need the conviction and character to act. And that is what courage is about. (56)
How do we become people of wisdom and courage?
The only way to do it is with other people. We need people who know us and the complexities and difficulties of our lives really well—so well that we can’t hide the complexity and difficulty from them. And we need people who love us—who are unreservedly and unconditionally committed to us, our flourishing, and our growth no matter what we do, and who are so committed to us that they won’t let us stay the way we are. (58)
The Place of Technology
Crouch discusses technology in the context of the family. In particular, he writes about the relationship between technology and the reason family exists.
For technology, with all its gifts, poses one of the greatest threats ever conceived by human society to the formation of wise, courageous persons that real family and real community are all about. (62)
Crouch views the goal of technology as “easy everywhere,” and since this ethos often stands in opposition to growth in wisdom and courage, we need help.
What it all adds up to is a set of nudges, disciplines, and choices that can keep technology in its proper place—leaving room for the hard and beautiful work of becoming wise and courageous people together. (18)
Crouch is not against technology. He is simply passionate enough about the development of healthy, wise families that he doesn’t want anything (including technology) to stand in the way. So technology needs to be in “its proper place,” which Crouch summarizes in the preface in six ways.
Technology is in its proper place when…
- it helps us bond with the real people we have been given to love;
- it starts great conversations;
- it helps us take care of the fragile bodies we inhabit;
- it helps us acquire skill and mastery of domains that are the glory of human culture;
- it helps us cultivate awe for the created world we are a part of and responsible for stewarding; and
- we use it with intention and care. (20–21)
Though Andy Crouch begins The Tech-Wise Family with vision and principles, the book is stuffed with practical suggestions. He writes about the guidelines his family has tried to follow with regard to technology, and at the end of each chapter (in a “Crouch Family Reality Check”) he reveals how successful they were.
At its core, this is not a book about technology. This is a book about family, and a fine one at that. Crouch will provoke you, surprise you, and make you laugh. He models a way to approach technology neither as a gushing fanboy nor a fussy grump. His winsome vision of the family is primary, and technology must take a supporting role.
I enjoyed this book quite a bit, and I think many parents will benefit from reading it.
Thanks to Baker Books for providing me with a review copy of this book.
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